Anger, your friend

         Be angry but do not sin;
         do not let the sun go down on your anger,
         and do not make room for the devil.

                        —Ephesians 4.26-27

Anger is not a sin. It's a feeling.
It's not your enemy. It's also not righteousness.
Anger, may arise in the face of injustice, or happenstance,
or almost nothing at all.
But it is not “against” those things.
It's not about those things at all,
but about your response to those things.
Anger is a response to your powerlessness.
Otherwise you'd simply fix what was wrong.

Anger is your loyal friend: it's giving you a message
and won't leave till you get it.
So don't neglect or suppress your anger:
it will sit there and seethe in your mind's basement
and become toxic to you and others,
and, consciously or not, you will weaponize it.
Don't turn your anger against anybody, including yourself.
Just listen to it: it's telling you about your powerlessness.
And it's telling you what you care about.

Listen to your anger, and ask:
1. What is not right?
2. Do I really care about this?
This anger could just be a conditioned response.
But it's letting you know of your misplaced desire
for power ad control.
If this thing is not worth caring about,
You can let you anger be, without reacting to it. Just let it be.
And let yourself be powerless. (After all, you are.)
3. If I do care about this, what can I do?
Remember, you're still powerless.
But let your anger direct your attention to what you can do—
not to hurt, to avenge, or to make yourself feel less powerless,
but to make the situation better.
In action you will regain your power.
Then thank your friend anger.

   —August 8, 2018